In recent decades, spirituality and psychology have become more closely connected as researchers and clinicians recognize that human well-being involves more than just thoughts and behaviors. While psychotherapy traditionally focused on observable mental processes, spirituality addresses deeper questions about meaning, purpose, connection, and transcendence. Integrating these two perspectives allows for a more holistic understanding of the human experience.

One key reason for this integration is that many people naturally interpret their emotional and life challenges through a spiritual lens. Questions such as “Why am I suffering?” or “What is the purpose of my life?” often arise during psychological distress. By acknowledging spiritual beliefs and values, psychologists can better understand their clients’ motivations, coping strategies, and sources of resilience and healing.

Research in fields such as Positive Psychology has also contributed to this integration. Scholars like Martin Seligmanhave emphasized strengths, meaning, and fulfillment as essential components of well-being. Spiritual practices—such as meditation, prayer, and compassion—can support these aspects of mental health by fostering emotional regulation, gratitude, and a sense of connectedness.

Another factor is the growing evidence that spiritual practices can have measurable psychological benefits. Practices like mindfulness meditation, influenced by traditions within Buddhism, have been widely adopted in therapeutic settings. Programs such as Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, developed by Jon Kabat-Zinn, demonstrate how contemplative traditions can be adapted into evidence-based psychological interventions that reduce stress, anxiety, and depression.

Integrating spirituality into psychology also promotes culturally sensitive care. Many cultures view mental health, community, and spiritual life as deeply intertwined. Recognizing spiritual perspectives allows therapists to respect clients’ worldviews and incorporate meaningful practices that support healing.

Ultimately, the integration of spirituality and psychology reflects a broader understanding of mental health. Rather than viewing people purely as biological or cognitive systems, this approach acknowledges the human search for meaning, connection, and transcendence. By working together, spirituality and psychology offer a more complete path toward psychological growth and well-being

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At the end of your day, become quiet in a place where you can mentally review your day – all of the activities, the people you interacted with, etc.  Then ask yourself when you felt most inspired, or grateful.  This would be the “high” point of your day.  Then – once you have that moment, ask yourself when you felt the opposite – the “low” point of your day.  It is optimal if you can record both moments in a journal, or notebook.

Ignatius felt that there was learning in both circumstances and therefore important to reflect on gratitude and on challenges.  Some have referred to this practice as sorting through the “roses” and the “thorns.”  After several weeks of this, you may be clearer about which aspects of your life are supporting your optimal health – emotional, mental, physical and spiritual; and which are causing you continued stress.  This stress may be coming from your own thoughts or beliefs about yourself and others – or it may be from a particular habit or interaction with a person.  Once you can see the patterns that help or hinder your growth, you can then make the necessary adjustments where possible.  For example, you may notice that whenever you exercise you feel good – and whenever you watch to my television you feel tired.  Insight doesn’t necessarily lead to change – but it may be the first step to discovering your greater potential and peace of mind.

Originally posted 2025-11-16 09:17:51.

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Originally posted 2022-05-16 12:12:02.

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Today we gather as a community of mourners, each of us drawn here by a common thread as we seek to remember and honor the life of a person who is special to us.  We are each grieving a loss, we remember how life used to be and we are trying to re build our lives as best as we can.  Some days it’s a challenge, seeking to grieve and to care for ourselves wanting to find healing in the pain of loss.

My own mother died one year ago today and I am grateful for her life and for what she taught me – the importance of community, to always be kind, and to believe in myself.  But I also struggle with her absence – and at times feel lost as I try to adjust to “the new normal” without her.  As you know, when someone you love dies, you can’t go backwards and change the things that you might have wished went differently.  Life as we know it, will never be quite the same again. We ask many questions – why did this happen?  Could we have done more? Been more forgiving, compassionate, aware? And so we move through our grief without necessarily having any answers  – sometimes clumsy, tentative, unsure and sometimes in spite of ourselves.

Someone once described grief as a “journey through the wilderness” meaning that we don’t have a map as we’ve never travelled this way before.  We may feel scared, angry and alone.  Yes, we will have experienced other losses and griefs, but this one is unique because our relationship with our loved one was unique and special.  Our life is changed and we can’t go back – we must move forward, one day at a time.  And so one thing that helps me on this grief journey –  is to try and remain in the present as much as I can – if I think too far ahead I feel anxious.  Each day we take another step forward, maybe some days reluctantly even when we don’t want to, but life for us and those around us, does go on.

Each of us here today will have a different experience – “your grief is as unique as your thumbprint.”  There is no one right way to grieve, to love, to live.  But even though we are different – we are also united by our grief.  I know that others can understand to a degree – what I am feeling because they are too, in their  own way.  Coming together today. –  to share stories, view the pictures of our loved ones, to cry, to laugh, to heal – is important because it helps us.  And so we honour our grieving, our loving and our healing.  This is a sacred path and one that will transform us in ways that are unexpected, perhaps uncomfortable at times and also amazing.  So as we release the beautiful butterflies, symbols of new life and of freedom, may we each receive the gift of hope and transformation.

Originally posted 2023-06-19 12:22:00.

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“To be present is to know what you need to know in the moment.  To be present to something is to allow the moment, the person, the idea, or the situation to change you.” (Breathing Underwater, 2011)

We become receptive and willing to let go of rigid programs, thoughts, beliefs and behaviours that may be holding us back from self awareness.

To practice being present, bring your focus to your breathing, even for just a few minutes and notice what it feels like.

Originally posted 2023-05-24 12:21:40.

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Common misperceptions:

• You should move away from grief, not toward it
• The goal is to get over your grief
• Nobody can help you with your grief
• It takes about a year to get over a significant loss
• It’s better not to think or talk about the pain
• Grief has an end point

Truisms about Grief:

• Grief has no timetable
• The goal is to grieve well, not right
• Grief is not a linear process
• Others can help you, support is crucial
• Grief changes over time

As Lao Tzu said many centuries ago, “New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.”

Originally posted 2023-03-13 12:20:34.

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The authors write, “…practicing gratitude on top of receiving psychological counselling carries greater benefits than counselling alone, even when that gratitude practice is brief.”  The researchers also studied the brains of the students and found that this brief practice of gratitude positively influenced brain functioning.

So what are the implications of this study, and many others like it?  Finding a way to be grateful may be a powerful way to shift your mood and overall health.  Incorporating a gratitude practice into your daily life does not need to take a lot of time or effort and the payoff may be astounding.

Some ideas:

• Write letters to friends , family or even people you haven’t met expressing something about them that you are grateful for
• Make a list of things in your life that you are thankful for – these can be big things or small things
• Visualize the positive aspects or experiences in your day that make you feel good
• Express verbally your gratitude to others, or to yourself even
• And then…. observe what begins to change in your life 🙂

Originally posted 2023-02-19 12:20:10.

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This approach emphasizes making room for quiet in our daily life – something that most of us find difficult to do.  How can we truly “listen” enough to ourselves, our feelings, our passions, our disappointments and our joys?  There can be much wisdom and insight to be realized if we can nurture this part of ourselves.  We are used to looking for answers outside of ourselves.  Some ideas are as follows:

Find a time during your day when you won’t be disturbed and can sit comfortably on your own

Turn off all phones, screens, media

Gently bring your awareness to your breathing, simply following the rise and fall of each breath

When a distracting thought comes, simply return your focus to the breath

Sit quietly, without an agenda and notice what you feel in your body

Even five minutes a day is a good start, then return your focus to the room and carry on with your day

If you feel drawn to writing, you can record your experience – whatever it may be

Originally posted 2023-02-05 12:20:57.

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Interestingly, both groups reported about a 30 percent decrease in the intensity of their symptoms.  The researchers also suggest that this program can work well when delivered virtually, something that may make a mindfulness program more appealing to some people who are interested in accessing therapeutic programs in a convenient way.

Originally posted 2023-01-30 12:19:12.

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A few ideas to boost your emotional and mental strength:

• Give you attention to the present moment as much as is possible – learn to let go of past regret and future worries
• Practice mindfulness or other form of meditation to help you stay grounded in the present
• Practice good health habits – adequate sleep and nutrition
• Seek a supportive circle of friends and family in your life – social support helps us to thrive and weather difficult circumstances
• Develop a gratitude practice: appreciate the good in your life, avoid negativity where possible which can be contagious
• Acknowledge and accept so called “negative emotions” which are a part of every life; for example, grief after a significant loss
• Nurture a sense of purpose in your life – helping others may be one way to boost meaning in your life and make you feel good

Originally posted 2023-01-17 12:19:39.

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